rhythmically challenged: A phrase frequently used to describe someone who consistently dances off time. A better definition would be a person who lacks the education required to be able to rhythmically count beats of music. (reference: Skippy Blair’s Dance Terminology Notebook)

I used to be rhythmically challenged. Even after seven years of ballroom dance classes, I still had trouble with the beat–yet I didn’t know it! You see, they don’t teach this stuff in grade school or in dance classes. Then I found an enlightened teacher: Swing Dance Hall of Famer Skippy Blair. I got educated and trained on my own. Now I’m very connected to the beat.
It took a long time to realize that I had a problem with the beat. There’s no test to take with a score. Your friends don’t pull you aside and do an intervention. Sure, dance partners will be less anxious to dance with you, but that’s hard to detect because they’ll still dance with you. The most disconcerting? You can give the appearance that you’re connected to the music by learning choreography. I believe that’s the state of many celebrities on Dancing with the Stars.
The difficulty in hearing the beat can vary a lot from song to song. You often get songs with beats that are easy to hear, for example, the teaching music used in ballroom dance classes. You can get partners who have a good sense of rhythm and they will help you stay on the beat, yet you won’t know that they’re helping. And very often you step on the beat by guessing or by accident (think: even a broken clock is right twice a day). So it’s easy to be in denial about a lack of rhythm. Besides, you know dozens of intermediate level step patterns so you must be an intermediate level dancer, right?
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When I was a beginner, whether I was dancing at a social dance with other beginners or at a venue where nobody knew how to dance (like a wedding reception), I think many of my partners liked my dancing because I smiled and didn’t yank on their arms. Funny thing, my arrhythmia didn’t stand out because most of the other leaders were rhythmically challenged too. Besides, many of my followers were beginners and challenged too, so they were not judging my musicality. To them, being charming and gentle and being halfway competent at doing cool step patterns—albeit, off time—is better than: 1) being a dweeb or a creep; 2) dancing rough; 3) executing choreography poorly; 4) rocking back-and-forth like a dork. So even if you’re rhythmically challenged, you can have partners who will tell you, sincerely, you’re a good dancer, which further buries the truth.
In my experience this is not just a guy thing. Many women are rhythmically challenged. I suspect that most people can’t hear the beat—that is, to always be sure of the beat, not just occasionally (guessing doesn’t count). That’s the average condition.
An intellectual (read: superficial) grasp of the beat can be easy to fake because it often works — by guessing, by accident, by using choreography and by dancing to music with beats that are easy to hear. But having rhythm in your flesh and bones (read: natural and intuitive) is where you want to be. It’s a thrill to be viscerally moved by music as it’ll not only make you a dancer but it’ll make listening just for pleasure, anytime and anywhere, more enjoyable. Most people can train themselves to be sure of the beat, but first you need to be educated. I just wish they taught it in grade school and in dance classes.
What’s your story: Do you suspect you’re rhythmically challenged? Were you once rhythmically challenged and did you overcome it? How did you overcome it?



