Tired of having no rhythm?


Tired of being a wallflower at a dance? Tired of getting confused by the music in an aerobics or Zumba class? Tired of not knowing how to clap at a concert? Tired of feeling awkward just tapping your foot to music?

Here are some webpages to check out:
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Every Man’s Survival Guide to Ballroom Dancing:Ballroom dancing survival guide on Amazon Ace Your Wedding Dance and Keep Cool on a Cruise, at a Formal and in Dance Classes
(the Freebie Video page includes a Table of Contents)

* Amazon print ($11.95) * Kindle ($5.99) *  Apple iBookstore ($5.99) *

      • Midwest Book Review: “…a non-dancers crash course in understanding the basics of dance so they don’t look like a fool on the dance floor…”
      • khan: “…He talks about things which are hardly touched in dance classes…”
      • Gretechen: “This book is written for men, but women would find good information in this, too. It is packed with lots of practical suggestions. A must for all beginners.”

Coming January 2018: Hear the Beat, Feel the Music: Count, Clap and Tap Your Way to Remarkable Rhythm. Check out the webpage for the book, HearTheBeatFeelTheMusic.com which includes a Table of Contents.

* Amazon links coming soon *

Who are these books for?

htb_homepage_backcharlestonEvery Man’s Survival Guide to Ballroom Dancing is geared toward partner dancing (ballroom, swing and the Latin dances like salsa, cha cha, etc). It has parts on music, rhythm, slow dancing, the wedding dance and surviving on the dance floor. BTW, ladies, despite the title, this book will help you too, really.

The book that’s due to drop in January (2018), Hear the Beat, Feel the Music, expands on just the first part, music, which makes it helpful to a broader audience:

      • All dancers, from ballet to hip hop to club dancing to dancing alone in your kitchen when you do the dishes
      • All dance fitness, like aerobics and zumba (see below for a testimonial from a fitness instructor)
      • People who workout to musichtb_homepage_runner
      • Anyone who is rhythmically challenged (that was once me)

CAUTION: When I discuss music it’s based on the way that dance choreographers count music, not musicians. While a choreographer’s count is related to music theory, it’s slightly different. If you’re a musician, please don’t have a heart attack!

A testimonial from a fitness instructor

Here’s the experience of Kendra P. who was training to be a fitness instructor:

“I stumbled upon your blog/website [ihatetodance.com] when I did a YouTube search for “counting 8 beats in music.” I recently attended a PiYo Strength Training (which is a fitness training) and the instructor told me to work on musicality. I have been a dancer my whole life, but somehow managed to memorize and rely on the lyrics, rather than listening to and “feeling” the music…silly, I know! I feel confident in the physical aspect of the teaching, but I was really uncomfortable with the counting beats portion. In a fitness class, it is very evident when the instructor does not know how to count to music…the class seems very choppy and feels like it doesn’t flow. I definitely didn’t want to be that instructor! I read through your website word for word and watched all of your videos and Skippy’s video. It has helped me so very much! I really appreciate you taking the time to write such a descriptive, detailed tutorial on dancing and music. My friend was telling me once the beats are pointed out, you will say, ‘oh, duh! Why didn’t I hear that before?!’ And it’s very true….after watching your videos and watching your hand motions, it’s so obvious now!”

Kendra P.


(House cleaning: here’s the original Table of Contents for Every Man’s Survival Guide to Ballroom Dancing, which I’m keeping live until I can figure out how to preserve the comments)


Credit for three photos in header: 1) Lidyanne Aquino on flicker 2) Damion Gadal on flickr 3) Brendan Lally on flickr

Credit for photo below the header of two dancers and two musicians: daspunkt on flickr

Credit for photo mid-page of a dance fitness class: Vladimir Pustovit on flickr

Credit for photo mid-page of couple dancing back charleston (original image was modified by cropping out some of the background): Elvert Barnes

Credit for photo near the bottom of a runner: Nathan Rupert on flickr



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